5 Must Dos To Avoid Being Caught Cheating

When I ask clients what they should have done differently to avoid being caught cheating, they often say they should have done more to protect their partner's heart. High value men know their girlfriend/wife is their life partner, but don't want life to pass them by. This internal struggle leads to stress and heartbreak, costing them time, money, and the relationship with the woman they met too early in life.

True story, one of my clients, we'll call him James is a new money 39 year old entrepreneur who credited his success to his college girlfriend Melissa. He valued Melissa's loyalty and how she made their place a home. An affair completely changed the course of his life and cost him everything. It wasn't texts or an Instagram story that betrayed him it was the condom receipt Melissa found doing laundry that lead to her being heartbroken. If he avoided one mistake, how different would his life be?

My name is Marcus Rodgers and I've dedicated my time to helping men enjoy relationship freedom while protecting their partner's hearts. Over the years I've used the experiences of my clients and the expertise of my team to develop the formula to guide high value men to enjoy a stress free relationship. We help men take care of the details of indiscretions giving them peace of mind. I believe relationships work when both partners are happy but the #1 mistake high value men make is thinking they will succeed on their own. In the end this costs them time, money, and the woman they are supposed to have a long term relationship with.

In an earlier post, I listed 5 subtle tells men unknowingly do that women catch onto. Now, I'll outline the easy to follow solutions you'll need to preserve your relationship as a high value man.

1. Your cover story should make her feel at ease and give her a sense of security - You text your side piece "I miss you, and can't wait to see you again". She responds with "I'm free tomorrow". You tell your girlfriend/wife you're going to hang out with the boys for a couple of hours tomorrow only to be followed up with a barrage of questions that you were not prepared to answer. What should you have done instead?
   1. Text your side piece to let her know you have plans but you'll try to move some things around. This will buy much needed time.
   2. Plan out the details of when, where and and how long you plan to be with your side piece. When planning be specific around who you will be with and the times you expect to return.
   3. Check with your friends to see if the timing works. The last thing you need is for the friend you are supposedly out with to be out of town.
   4. Tell your girlfriend/wife you plan to go out with friends. If she has a legitimate reason why you shouldn't go, tell your side piece the timing doesn't work, but the beauty of this is you don't feel obligated and can easily schedule another day.
2. Don't leave things to chance - It's easy for a high value man to fall into the trap of thinking a small detail, won't lead to the destruction of his relationship. "There's no way that can happen" leads to "what are the odds that just happened to me". Be like the coach of a championship team and put yourself in the best position to win.
   1. Do not go to places familiar to your girlfriend or mutual friends.
   2. Ensure your side piece knows your situation with your wife/girlfriend. More often than not side pieces will still date you and respect the fact that you were up front with them.
   3. Do not bring your side piece to your house. Get a hotel or travel to another city. The extra money you spend is peanuts to the amount of money it will cost you if you get caught
3. New routines should be the routine - Unless you're in a long distance relationship, and hardly communicate, your girlfriend knows your routine. Changes to your routine can be an easy cheating tell.
   1. Consistently break your routine with activities that you actually go to. Organize poker nights with friends, join a sports team at work, mix up your gym routine and go at different times during the day. These tactics are all designed to make sure she sees changes to your routine, as something normal.
   2. Consistently schedule text messages during your new routine. The text messages should let her know you miss her and are thinking about her. Again the point is to ensure your girlfriend feels secure.
4. Planning, planning, planning - Before you go and spend time with your side piece you need to plan all details. The planning needs to be detailed and it that planning doesn't start with the time you meet up with your side piece. it starts much earlier. A girlfriend can sense when you're uneasy, restless, or anxious.
   1. All details (reservations, grooming, even what you will wear) should be settled no later than the day before you meet with your side piece.
   2. Plan out what happens if thing don't go to plan. Your side piece says she will be late, your wife/girlfriend wants to grab dinner, your side piece wants to spend more time than originally planned. It's not enough to have an initial plan, you must have plan B and C worked out in order to give your partner security.
5. The details mater - Respect the fact that she knows you better than anyone. Never, and I mean never make the assumption a detail doesn't matter. It's the overlooked details that will lead you to divorce and loneliness. Men often spend time with their side piece, rush home, and forget to clean up loose ends.
   1. Prior to going home intentionally carve out time to revisit the night (I recommend at least 15 minutes). There would have been conversations that with your side piece setting the logistics of the night, did you pick her up or did she meet you at the venue. How was everything paid, did they give you a receipt. Did you park your car through a valet. Did she connect to your bluetooth, did she adjust the chair or visor mirror. If you went to a hotel did you throw away the room key.
   2. Erase all txts, DMs, or communication with her.
   3. Throw away all receipts. There should be no trace of your time out with your side piece. No txts, social media, no videos.

The truth is, as a high value man, you can't afford to do this on your own. Technology, social media, and resources are designed to catch you in your indiscretions. Love her Better is specifically designed to help men live their true selves while still protecting their partner's heart. We've seen the ways women catch men cheating and use our experiences, resources, and attention to details to help you enjoy a stress free relationship.