All Successful Cheaters Have This One Thing in Common
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Is it possible for cheaters to cheat and never get caught or is it a ticking time bomb that always eventually goes off? Society wants men to think they can't have it all and to expect relationship freedom will always end up in divorce.
That's simply not true! When high value men take care of their responsibility and protect their partner's heart they can have the best of both worlds and do it while having peace of mind.
Men go wrong thinking they can do it on their own. They feel they know which one of their actions will cause red flags, and underestimate how important small details are when involved in infidelity.
My team meets with loveherbetter men on a weekly basis. We talk through tactics that work in relationships, and what doesn't have success when trying to reach their relationship goals. I've learned, the #1 strategy a high value man needs to enjoy relationship freedom, is to have a long term plan. Men that act on impulse, and rely on how they feel at the time have the most amount of trouble maintaining the relationship with their partner and a side piece.
At the beginning of your relationship with your side piece you have to decide if you want to be with your wife/girlfriend for the long term. If you want to stay in your relationship for the long term, plan how you're going to stop talking to your side piece. This should be no longer than 6 months.
Benefits of strategizing the early exit:
- You've already come to the realization it's not forever, making it less likely to catch feelings - you won't spend hours asking yourself if this person is wifey material. It doesn't matter so you can focus on the fun side of the relationship
- You satisfy your physical needs without creating emotional baggage - Most men cheat for the physical satisfaction. Short term relationships are exciting and with the right plan can give you exactly what you need.
- You won't take unnecessary risks - You're able to prioritize your actions and not jeopardize the long term.
- Your side piece won't expect wifey privileges - No need for valentines day or extravagant birthday celebrations. You will be able to compartmentalize and keep the relationship casual
Remember you are meant to be with your partner for the long run. As a high value man, you will make mistakes but those mistakes should not cost you and your partner years of happiness together. You must protect your partner's heart by shielding her from your indiscretions while still being your true self.
What happens if you don't want to be with your current partner for the long term?
End it With Your Wife/Girlfriend! As a high value man you owe it to your partner to end the relationship when you don't see a future. You have the responsibility to do what's best for her in the long run. If you don't plan to be with her, save both of your time.
Why can't I just go with the flow and make sure I'm careful whenever I've with my side piece?
- You will get confused - Without having a north star, you won't know if you're doing enough in either relationship and your peace of mind will suffer
- More likely to be caught cheating - You'll take more changes, go out in public more often and the lines of your situation will be blurred
- You will end up alone - judgement day will come where either your side piece will want more from the relationship or you will be confused on who you want to be with. More often than not, without having a plan, your wife will catch you in your indiscretions and your side piece will move on. In the end you will lose everything
The truth is high value men deserve relationship freedom and their partners deserve to feel secure, have their needs taken care of and to be happy. Relationships are different today and traditional steps don't work for everyone. Men realize this fact but make the mistake of thinking they can do this alone and think getting caught can't happen to them. 85% of couples break up after finding out about infidelities. The stakes are too high to risk your relationship by learning as you go. Remember, people are happiest when being their true selves while protecting their partner's hearts. Do you, Respectfully.