Can You Change a Cheating Partner's Ways?

Society wants you to believe that if you just try hard enough in relationships you can change your partner into who you want them to be. The hard truth I've learned in this business is you can encourage people to grow, but their core attributes will always remain.

When men and women reflect on their relationships I often hear, if I just did this one thing better, my partner would be who I want them to be. As if you have the power force them to see life through your eyes and control their decisions.

Ben, a married man came to me asking for help because he wanted to make his wife into his idea of a perfect woman. I knew where the conversation would end up but indulged in the conversation and I asked what was his vision of the perfect woman? He wanted:

1. A woman that took care of home first - His wife was already good at this and he was happy with the fact she cooked every day, cleaned the house weekly and prioritized making the house a home.
2. A partner who didn't cheat - This had been a problem in the relationship in the past when she used drugs. When she used, she lost her inhibitions and previously cheated on Ben while they were together.
3. A lover who would be open to threesomes - This was always Ben's fantasy and something he wanted to explore but was never able to.

Ben thought he solved the cheating part because his wife agreed to only do drugs when they were together. He tried to approach the threesome subject with his wife by directly asking for it. His wife loved him so much she agreed to try to be more open even though she had no interest in other women. She went to strip clubs with Ben, and flirted with girls but it wasn't enough. He wanted to change her into his ideal woman.

After working for some time with Ben, he eventually came to the realization that his wife wasn't going to change into what he thought was the ideal woman. I helped him realize that she didn't need to. Introducing another person into the relationship would open the door for issues they didn't have today including insecurities and resentment.

Hearing that story may seem obvious for some that he could not force her to be someone she wasn't but the same idea is true for woman who try to change their husbands.

Women often have the false mindset they can change a man's cheating habits.

The truth is, a man who wants relationship freedom and has cheated will likely do it again repeatedly. So what's the answer?

Men must prioritize protecting their partner's heart, providing for all of their partner's needs while understanding they can enjoy relationship freedom as a high value man. A man can and should have the best of both worlds, not settle for a life of mediocrity, while giving their partner the life she deserves.

Most men fall short because they explore relationship freedom but allow their partners to catch their indiscretions, leaving them hear broken, and bankrupt. Men are not equipped to do it on their own because technology and resources are focused on catching men cheat instead of focused on keeping both partners happy.

LoveHerBetter is the tool men can use to finally even the odds and help give them a stress free relationship.

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