You have a Side Piece...should you tell her You're In a Relationship?

There are 3 ways men can maintain a relationship with a side piece. Hide the truth from her and his main girl, tell his side piece about his situation and communicate what he wants from her, or be upfront with both his partner and his side piece that he intends to maintain some form of relationship with both of them. Through my experience working with high value men, I've seen men navigate through all three, from taking off their wedding rings mid conversation, to approaching women and freely talking about the good and bad in their current relationships.

Men hide their relationship status because they don't want to risk missing out on their opportunity to fulfill physical or emotional needs. It's a natural urge to want to lie to a potential fling. You're attracted to her but you don't know how she would react if she finds out that you have a partner. When meeting in a social setting or even over social media men want to feel out the woman's temperature and mindset. If it turns out both of you only want something physical then it may work, but what happens if she is turned off and closes the door because you tell her of your situationship. To avoid that perceived risk men lie to both, thinking it will open their options when it actually significantly reduces them. Think about it, when you lie to both, you reduce your options around where you can see your side piece and how long you can keep the relationship going. The situation gets exponentially more complicated. Not only do you have to cover your tracks from one person, now you have twice as many stories to keep track of. To make things even harder, you will have a hard time addressing basic questions such as what's your instagram, and explaining why she can't come to your house to visit. This option takes a lot of time, is extremely stressful and can't be maintained long term. Through my experience men are often surprised to learn, side pieces will continue to date them, and prefer a man who is direct about their situation. They become resentful when they discover they've been lied to. Lying to both your side piece and partner is the worst option, can't be maintained and will undoubtedly lead to you being caught in your infidelities. Don't Fall Into the Trap!

The truth is, women rather know if you have someone else and often times do not care so long as you are providing the value they are looking for. The value men should provide can be monetary, physical or filling an emotional void that's lacking in her life. If you are a high value man, and want to hide your indiscretions from your girlfriend/wife, you should always tell your mistress that you are involved with another person. Limit the amount of information you provide to your side piece because any info you tell her can be used against you. Although you may think she is "not that type of girl", the truth is you can't leave it to chance. It is not as impossible as you may think.

With any potential fling, there's going to be the time when she asks if you're dating anyone. Tell her you are dating, but you're interested in getting to know her more. This simple communication sets the expectation that there are other women, it doesn't give off the impression that you're looking for something exclusive, but also let's her know that you want to take things further with her. Immediately ask your potential side piece what it is that she is looking for. If she's looking for something casual, then you're on the same page. Tell her you are too. If she says she's looking for a committed relationship with one person, your next step is crucial, but often the step men get wrong. Be honest with her. You shouldn't tell her you are looking to date for marriage, when you're not. Doing so will ultimately lead her to resenting you for wasting her time when she could have invested in another potential relationship. These are the situations you hear about, where the girl keys the guys car, and for some reason the guy seems completely surprised. Instead of lying to her saying you're looking for the same thing tell her you think what she's looking for is beautiful, but you're currently dating so you can grow and enjoy new experiences with someone that has the same values as you. Then when she asks why you're not in a relationship, tell her you focused your time on developing yourself professionally and emotionally, so that you can be the person to treat a woman how she is supposed to be treated. Tell her although you both aren't looking for the same things right now, you feel the connection with her and would like to get to know her more. By giving her the option to continue to see you, you highlight the value you bring without putting the pressures of a committed relationship that you are not looking for. Women will appreciate this and whether they continue exploring the connection with you now or in the future, they will hold you in high regard.

By starting off a connection this way, you are setting yourself up for success. I walked through the initial conversation all men should have with their side piece, but this is just the first step. You have to carefully lay out your expectations of her and have the direct conversations around what you're looking for. All of this you have to do while protecting your partner's heart. Men often make the mistake of acting on impulse, without a plan, and say something to the side piece that they can't walk back. Once you make that mistake it's hard to recover and ultimately leads to regret.

There is a blue print for this and you can enjoy living having a side piece while in a relationship but you must avoid the common pitfalls men make. Love her better allows for you to achieve your relationship goals and be the high value man you're looking to achieve.