In Town or Out of Town Cheating, What Men Need to Know to Avoid Having Their Relationship Destroyed

Whether you prefer to have a convenient in town relationship with a side piece or prefer to keep indiscretions as far away from home as possible, being caught cheating will lead to stress, loneliness and can cost you everything. So the question is, should high value men choose in town or out of town cheating to enjoy relationship freedom.

The definition of out of town is different for everyone. A person that stays in Manhattan may consider cheating in Brooklyn to be out of town, while a professional athlete may view any road trip away from their home city as out of town. For the purposes of this article, I'm defining out of town as any place you travel in which your partner would expect you to book hotel accommodations. Notice this definition is based on your partner's expectation and not based on a defined distance. Baltimore to Philadelphia for example may not be considered out of town for a couple living in one city and close relatives in another, because she may expect him to stay with family while visiting. She has access to her partner's location as if he was in the same city. The same is true for cities such as San Diego to LA, and New York to New Jersey and so on.

One big advantage of local indiscretions is the ease of which you are able to spend time with your side piece. You're able to make plans the day of and if you need to reschedule you can do so easily. Just think, whether you want to take off a day from work to go wine tasting, or meet up late at night, if a Monday doesn't work, the next day will. Additionally, the cost of local cheating is significantly less than out of town. Booking transportation, lodging, and even food for both you and your side piece can be expensive over time. Being able to avoid those costs is a huge advantage over long distance.

There's a sweet spot with cheating locally as well. Typically men put in a lot of time, resources and effort to find a local side piece, but when done right, after the connection is made, he can easily see his side piece consistently. A high value man can see his mistress frequently, can establish expectations around what the encounters will be, and can modify plans relatively easily. All at a lower cost than cheating out of town. The disadvantages of in town cheating are steep. First, ensuring you're finding a connection that has no direct or indirect connections to your partner can be risky. You do not know your potential fling's background or indirect connections they may have with your partner.

I've known men who got a drink at a lounge on a Wednesday afternoon with their side piece and been spotted by their partner's friends that he's never met before. Cheating locally also makes it more likely your side piece will have access to your house, job and ultimately your partner. Although you may trust your side piece, if she feels hurt by you she will get even at any costs.

Men go wrong because they have in town relationships without a long term plan. I can't tell you the amount of times I hear men say, they will just ride it to the wheels fall off, not realizing the car is peace of mind and they're driving with no insurance. It's not something men can handle on their own. Out of town cheating on the other hand is more expensive with travel and hotel and doesn't give the same consistency and convenience of in town cheating but significantly reduces the amount of risk. When done correctly, it creates boundaries so it's understood the when and where indiscretions will take place. It's also less likely to require daily communication and other emotional commitments. The downside to out of town cheating, is plans are less flexible and it's less likely to maintain the relationship over a significant amount of time. Also consider she is more likely to have other partners.

With out of town cheating men often go wrong by setting up unrealistic expectations of their mistress and underestimate the amount of planning needed. When they just focus on having a good time, they lose sight of the most important details of protecting their partner's heart. From scheduling text messages, to setting up video calls, to remembering where they told their wife they would be and who they were going to be with. The details matter.

Through my experience both in town relationships and out of town affairs are possible but details and back up plans have to be managed properly. Men often lack the experience and attention to details to enjoy relationship freedom, leading them to getting caught in their indiscretions. In town cheating with the same mistress is not a forever deal and trying to maintain the relationship without a plan for the future will destroy your peace of mind. Out of town cheating is not as emotionally fulfilling over a long period of time but is the better option if done right to reduce stress and minimize exposure for getting caught. Love her Better, specializes in helping men achieve their relationship goals whether in town or out of town because through our experience we know the details to avoid the pitfalls of indiscretions. Peace of mind can be achieved while still protecting your partner's heart. Love Her Better, Do you Respectfully.