Split or Stay Together? Does She Provide P.E.A.C.E.?

Split or stay together is a question every man will deal within in his relationship. Some men reach out to friends for advice, others make a list of the positives and negatives, and some rely on gut feel.

What if there was a simple formula to give you the answers you needed to make that decision. If she doesn't meet each and every one of the criteria, you'll know with confidence the right thing is to the end the relationship.

The first and only question needed as a high value man, is does your partner provide you p.e.a.c.e? On a daily basis mean deal with financial stress, societal pressures, and the constant mental burden of living up to who they expect to be in all areas of their life. The last thing men want is to fight battles at home with the person they want to build a life with. So how do you know if you should stick with your partner through the ups and downs? Easy, you determine if she meets the P.E.A.C.E criteria.

PEACE

Puts you first always in all ways - Both publicly and privately, a woman should prioritize her partner. Publicly, a couple should be seen as one unit, incapable of being divided, even when there are problems at home. This will minimize outside influences and also keep others from feeling like they can come in between your relationship.

Easy on the eyes - Men by nature are sexual beings and sexual attraction is important. Without attraction, men are less likely to do the necessary things to keep her as his partner. This attraction can build over time but it's necessary for a lifelong relationship.

Accepts you for who you are and supports who you want to be - High value men have goals and aspirations to be better, in all areas of their life. The pressures and difficulty to accomplish this unattainable goal (because it never is fully reached) is down right hard. A man needs a woman in his corner that encourages him and facilitates his journey to be better. Without this, a high value man will live in regret and never reach his potential.

Contributes to the house - whether a woman works, takes care of the home by sharing in the responsibilities, or takes care of the kids, she must contribute. A woman that doesn't, will drain you, take from you and will never be satisfied no mater how much you do.

Expectations are aligned of what a good family life should look like - You must be aligned in your vision around your future together. If you don't want kids and that's important to her, it won't work. If you're not aligned on the religion you want to raise the kids with, it won't work. If you can't agree on the city you want to settle down in, guess what, it won't work.

Save yourself the trouble and prioritize your P.E.A.C.E. over everything.

John, one of my clients is a successful business owner and he'd been with his girlfriend for a year and a half. John was the type to date around, but was looking for a partner to start a family with. His girlfriend Sammy, was one of the most attractive women he'd ever dated, and just his type. Not only that, they had a ton in common and often talked about what a life together looked like. A future with 3 kids, 2 houses and one dog was something envisioned getting to together.

The problem, Sammy loved to gossip. She would talk about her relationship problems to anyone that would listen. Family, friends, and co-workers all knew the latest gossip around where John was falling short. From the mental struggles he had from his time in the military, to his insecurities around losing money on investments, their private discussions were now public. John found out about the gossip during the holiday party after he over heard jokes at his expense. Doing the right thing and not to embarrass his girl publicly, he talked about it with Jen privately. Her response was surprising. She didn't see anything wrong with the gossip, it was therapeutic for her.

I had 2 words of advice for John, "Leave Her". Not only will he lose his peace of mind knowing others know his struggles, but to get where he needed to go as a business owner, he needed a partner he could trust unconditionally. As long as he stayed in the relationship, she would limit how successful he could be.

You have the right to your peace but remember, you have a responsibility too. High value men must provide emotional and physical security, and provide for all of their partner's needs. Whether or not you want relationship freedom is up to you but you must provide security. For men that choose relationship freedom you must do it responsibly or it will lead to humiliation, loneliness and to losing everything.

Love her better, do you respectfully.