The One Factor High Value Men Can't Control When Cheating in a Relationship

High Value men deserve relationship freedom where they can explore connections outside of their relationship, but there are factors that will take it all away.

First, you must understand not all men deserve relationship freedom. This is reserved for high value men that take care of all their partner's needs including protecting their partner's heart.

To achieve relationship freedom a man must understand:

1. Cleaning up the details of an indiscretion is not a one time job If you are successful in planning infidelity and also executing the plan without being caught, the job is not done. Your story about your whereabouts need to stay consistent, and new information like videos/messages/pics can still lead you to divorce if your partner sees them. That means do Not keep videos/pics to remember the night! Men must always do the consistent necessary follow up to ensure their indiscretion never comes back to haunt their relationship.
2. Don't Take Unnecessary Chances - Men often make the mistake of taking unnecessary chances thinking there's a low possibility of getting caught cheating. If you risk doing an indiscretion and at any point of your planning you justify an action by saying "what are the odds" it means you haven't planned enough.
3. If you give her a reason to doubt, you've provided her reasons to dig - If a woman has doubts, she will put effort into finding clues of infidelity. To cheat successfully, you have to go above and beyond to give your partner the relationship security that she's looking for. Scheduled text messages telling her you love her or just about how the night is going goes a long way. Not doing so, is a common area men fail, ultimately leading their partners to look for proof of infidelity.

Even with implementing these crucial steps, one slip up can take it all away. The most common mistakes men make are:

1. Breaking Routine - Breakfast at 7 am, leave the house for work at 8 am, you make 2 phone calls home throughout the day and walk through the door at 6:20 pm. That's a consistent day that establishes routine. If this is your routine at home and suddenly that routine changes, it is going to raise red flags. Even if she doesn't bring it up, she will remember and be on alert for other suspicious activity.
2. Forgetting that your partner knows you - Don't ever forget that your partner knows you better than anyone. This is true even when your relationship is disconnected. Men make the mistake in assuming women pay attention to the same things that's important to them as a man. Have you ever read a text and reacted with what you thought was an innocent smile. You think to yourself she can't possibly think its suspicious, it can be from anyone. Unfortunately for you, they know you better than you know yourself. Remember women don't typically catch infidelity through big dramatic events like walking in on their partner cheating. It's typically more of a build of smaller acts that trigger insecurities that lead to her making an intentional effort to catch you cheating. Her insecurities come through in her behavior causing friction and stress, ultimately negatively affecting your peace of mind.
3. She's Smarter than you - It's a FACT, women pay more attention to details than men (see Huffpost). This puts men at a severe disadvantage when trying to cover their tracks when being with a mistress/side piece. Did you know one of the most common ways men get caught, is their side piece leaves makeup or an accessory in a compartment in their car? Sometimes a woman will find these things coincidentally and other times they will probe. You can't take the risk, leave nothing to chance.

This brings me to the main point of the article that ALL MEN must know. The one factor that will always ruin your relationship is the use of drugs. Why? Because you're not in control while using.

No matter how good you prepare, no matter how good your intentions are, you are not control of your actions and using will cause you to end up alone, broke and depressed.

The levels of self control are different for everybody. Some men can handle alcohol while for others, taking 1 drink leads to a series of uncontrollable acts. Some can have a good time on molly, while for others coke always lead them to making mistakes.

Recently my client, fell victim to this relationship killer. He told his wife that he was going to meet up with coworkers for a drink and that he would be back by 11. He had every intention of keeping his promises by answering when she called, and being back home when he said he would.

The night didn't turn out the way he planned it. The shots of whiskey weren't the things that derailed the night, it was the combination of coke and the whiskey. He only remembers flashes of the night. When he finally got home at 2:30 am he had no money is his wallet, his credit card flagged, and his wife was in tears.

He forgot to erase the text messages from his phone, he spent more money than he wanted to, and will never remember the whole night, only flashes of what happened. The parts he remembers were embarrassing and most of it he would not have done when he was sober.

So what should men do to avoid this happening to them?

1. Keep with your preparation - Make sure to plan all the cheating details well in advance. You significantly reduce the odds of making a mistake by focusing on the step by step details needed for success.
2. Set alarms in your phone - Do this to make sure you have check ins with your self throughout the night. You can even title the alarms, such as 15 min warning, txt the wife, or get an uber, etc.
3. Respect your addiction and know your limitations - You're addiction is stronger than your mindset (while you're using). Understand your triggers, and make sure you do not give yourself a chance to be in the situation where you can fall prey to using. It will cost you everything
4. Build in 15 min buffer - At the end of the night set aside 15 min before going back home to clean evidence of your indiscretions. This includes erasing text messages, pictures, throwing away receipts, throwing away wristbands. Whatever it is that can lead you to being caught cheating you have to discard before walking in the door.

The big mistake men make, is not using all of the resources available to them to hide their indiscretions. At LoveHerBetter we provide high value men the tools needed to have relationship freedom and not make common relationship mistakes. There is nothing more valuable than your peace of mind . Whether you need an alibi for your cheating indiscretions, to clean up your social media, or you've been caught and need ways to ensure to get out of it, our team will take care of the details so you can rest easy. We believe relationships last when both partners are happy and living their true selves. Men should provide security to women in all aspects of the relationship and still enjoy their freedom. LoverHerBetter, Do you respectfully.