You've Been Caught Cheating...Now What

"It's over, I'm the best thing you've ever had and you'll never see me again". These are the words men in relationships hope they never hear from their partner. Unfortunately more than 84% of couples break up after their partner finds out about their indiscretions. One of my clients, Mark recently found himself in this situation after his wife went through his phone and contacted his side piece. After finding out the details of the 4 month affair, his wife and his mistress confronted him at his work the day before his birthday in front of his coworkers. In the moment, Mark froze, not knowing whether to deny the accusations or come clean. All he knew was that he still wanted to be with his wife and he couldn't believe he lost everything over a physical connection with another woman.

The truth is most men cheat. 98% of men fantasize about someone other than their partner, however men have a responsibility to protect their partner's heart.

So you've been caught cheating, what should you do next?

First, decide who you want to be with. Indecision will cause you to lose both. If you want to salvage your relationship, cut off communication with your mistress and do it loudly. If your partner wants you to text your mistress in front of her or even call to say that it is over, then do it. The point is to make sure she feels secure that your other relationship is over. She's going to ask you what the affair meant to you and if love her. Let me give you the answer to the test. It meant Nothing and it was only physical. This is the only correct answer. Downplay the affair, particularly any emotional connection. If she has evidence such as text messages that say otherwise, that's just evidence that you told your mistress what she wanted to hear. Different women will have different reactions after finding out you're cheating whether she ignores you or yell at you, she will be hurt and being caught can cost you everything. The first 2 weeks will be the toughest but you will need to weather the storm because the road to recovery will be long.

Your girlfriend will ask you the all important question, "what made you cheat"? This is your chance to tell her the areas that are missing in your relationship. You may not feel appreciated, the relationship has become stale, or there's something that your side piece does that your girlfriend doesn't. Your girlfriend is looking for answers and this is your chance to get the relationship you're looking for.

Most men think getting caught cheating is a relationship death sentence and for most it is. They are undecisive, don't confirm their feelings for their partner, and make mistakes after being caught that make their partner call it quits (like being caught cheating again). Our team are experts at helping men perform the decisive steps needed to accomplish your relationship goals. There are must do's immediately after being caught, there are weekly conversations, and there's longer term actions you HAVE to take to avoid losing it all. You can try to do it on your own, losing your side piece, girlfriend, and your peace of mind, or you can love her better.

My name is Marcus Rodgers, and we help men that have been caught cheating achieve their relationship goals and regain their peace of mind. Whether you want your partner to move forward quickly from being caught cheating, or need want to continue hiding your indiscretions, we will help you live relationship stress free.